As a woman in a happy, healthy relationship - Valentine’s day sucks. It’s sexist, it’s needy, it’s impersonal and it’s commercialized love. I don’t know why women want it or why men put up with it.
After all the progress that women have made in women’s rights in the past 100 years, the fact that Valentine’s day is such a huge deal tells me that we still have so much further to go. “But Valentine’s day is for men, too!” Yeah, men LOVE pink teddy bears holding hearts that say “I love you” in the curviest cursive imaginable. Valentine’s day is for women and we all know it and while I’m all for some sexist jokes, the only “place” a woman belongs is where she wants to be even if it’s not in the kitchen. But an entire holiday dedicated to all the stereotypical things that women love is beyond ridiculous.
And women, really? You tell your men that you don’t want anything but get upset if he doesn’t get you anything. Grow up. There’s this new trend in relationships called communication. Guys tend to have this little quirk where they can’t decipher your clues and they only hear exactly what you say so when you say “nothing” but you mean “a card, a necklace and some roses,” it’s a sure bet that he’s going to hear “nothing” and act accordingly. But my question is why do you even need anything? Why are you so easily impressed that he managed to remember a holiday that turns all stores red, white and pink? Congratulations, you’ve been successfully brainwashed by the commercial holiday world.
Worse than that are the women who are single and bitter. They NEED a man for this one day a year and I have witnessed too many women basically race to find a guy to be with. Or they get a bunch of girls together and go man hunting so they have a hook up for the night. If you really need to get laid that badly, they make these awesome things called vibrators. They’re a good investment and they come in all shapes, sizes, speeds and colors. I’m sure that you can find your perfect match so that you don’t end up going home with the first guy who shows you attention at a bar. If you can’t find a man in time, you complain about how awful this day is even though everybody who knows you knows that you would have the exact opposite opinion if you were in a relationship of any sort.
Men, you feed this monster. Do I like getting cute/sweet/romantic gifts from the man I’m with? Yes, absolutely. But what I like more is when he thinks of it on his own instead of being reminded anytime he steps in a store for over a month before Valentine’s day. A bar of my favorite chocolate will always win out over a giant box of mystery chocolates that will either be half eaten and spit out or given away after all the good ones are eaten. A random card on a random day or a day that is specific to my relationship is infinitely sweeter than a card that 500 other women opened on the same day as I did. Heck, a piece of paper folded to make a card with stick figures and a bad pick up line would mean more to me if given randomly than a diamond bracelet could ever mean when given on Valentine's day.
“But Valentine’s day is about love and romance.” You’re so right, it is. And generic cards and bears are not romantic. You know what IS romantic though? Cooking something with your sweetie. Going on a walk and talking while enjoying the scenery. Making something together. Going to a shelter and playing with all the homeless cats and dogs for a couple hours (that one might just be me). Get some play-doh or legos and rediscover childhood together. Do something that is specific to your relationship. If you both love to read, sit in bed and read all day together. I can feel close to the man I’m dating when we’re both playing video games. If you want romance, then be romantic. And for best results, you should try this more than just one day a year when the retail lords tell you to be. Stop believing the garbage that society is trying to force feed you and know that love does not come from a fluffy teddy bear on February 14th.
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